There are many things that demand our time, attention, energy and money. As a result, it is very easy to neglect your spouse as you try and juggle all these things. Kids are the number one thing that sneak ahead of your spouse on your priority list and rob your marriage of intimacy and passion. There are several persons and activities that you could be making more important than your spouse and your marriage. Let’s explore what those are.

Kids

Go ahead and raise your hands if you already know that you are putting your kids above your spouse. Is your home child centered verses husband centered? I know many of you are feeling uncomfortable already. But just as Christ is the head of the church so is the husband the center of the family. It all starts there. Right after God, our husband should be your number one priority. When your marriage and husband is flourishing the family will flourish. You have to create a healthy environment for your kids and that starts with a healthy marriage which comes as a result of a focus on ministry to your husband. Yes, I said ministry. Are you focusing on ministering to your husband and making sure his needs are being met? I guarantee you if you focus too much on your kids, you will hurt your marriage.

Job

Are you a workaholic? Are you so focused on climbing the corporate ladder that your marriage is suffering? You justify it by saying, “Hey, if I don’t work this hard, then the bills don’t get paid.” Or “I have to establish myself in my career”. Your drive to produce and succeed at work has nothing to do with your spouse or your kids. It’s all about you. If you are placing your job above your husband, you are killing your love. Most of your time, energy and creativity are being spent on work and not on your spouse. Your marriage will die from neglect.

Home

Are you the kind of woman who just can’t sit still and just has to make sure everything is taken care of in the house before you go to sleep? You cannot relax and spend time with your husband because there are just too many jobs to do around the house. You feel good when you are completing tasks and being productive. Your house is clean but once again your husband is being neglected. Your daily household tasks are not more important than our husband or marriage. You have to dedicate time and energy to work at making your spouse and marriage a priority. These things come after you have met the needs of your husband.

Encouraging you to always make passion a focus in your marriage,The Wife Coach

The Wife Coach