One of the common mistakes that women make in relationships is that they don’t understand men. Women who understand how men work and appreciate them for their masculine gifts are much more successful in relationships. Likewise, women who are jaded, frustrated or have been burned too many times tend to sabotage their relationships. The unique characteristics of a man should be affirmed and celebrated.

The distinction between male and female is very real and very deeply rooted in human nature. The fact is we are just wired differently. Here are 7 truths about some of the differences between men and women:

• A man has a different outlook on life. His orientation toward life tends to be outward. Because her orientation is inward, toward relationships, nurturing, and “nesting,” the female of the species puts a premium on safety and security. To a far greater extent than the male, she values qualities like “dependability” and “trustworthiness” in a potential mate.
• Men talk to communicate information or ideas. Women talk to communicate feelings and thoughts. As a result, women tend to use more words than men.
• Men are competitive and dominant. A woman wants to be a man’s equal, at a very deep and fundamental level she has a strong desire to be led, protected and cared for.
• The male is a doer. His feelings about what he’s doing or his reasons for doing it are less important to him than the urge and the opportunity to get it done. Women values intimacy above action. A woman cares more about being than doing, and she finds the reason for her being in a relationship.
• Men are initiators. They possess a certain willingness and ability to “take the bull by the horns” and make things happen. It also suggests that leadership, while not necessarily an exclusively male characteristic, is nevertheless more deeply rooted in the nature of men and boys.
• Men are risk takers. They want to seize and make the most of their opportunities.
• Men need to know what’s next. Unlike a woman, he isn’t inclined to “cuddle,” to “savor” meaningful experiences, or to “linger” in the moment. Generally speaking, he’s anxious to move on to the next thing

The fact is, women are far more complex and men are fairly simple creatures who actually are pre-wired to want to serve you — if you know how to inspire them. Bottom line, most of my clients’ success comes when I teach them specifically how to understand and appreciate men so they can bring out the best in their men, rather than suffer through their worst. I can teach you how to inspire your man. Go to my homepage and sign-up for your free Wife Mastery Call today and download your FREE “Guide to Finding, Attracting and Keeping Your Husband”.

The Wife Coach