“A true relationship is all about TRUST and LOYALTY. The trust of a woman to her man. The loyalty of a man to his woman.” I ran across this saying and the author is unknown. But I find this saying to be true. I want to focus more today on the trust part. A healthy successful relationship has trust. Unfortunately many relationships struggle with trust for many reasons.
Trust is defined as the firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone. It is the confidence we place in that person. When trust has been established you feel safe and secure both physically and emotionally. Relationships that do not have trust will not survive during difficult times because they not reliable or strong.
You must strive to have honest and open communications in order to establish trust. Without open and honest communication, you will undermine trust and destroy the sense of security in the relationship. Both people must be open, honest and accurate in communicating information about their past, present and future. If they don’t, one or both, will feel off balance and instead of growing together they will grow apart.
Providing misleading information, withholding information and providing false information will eventually destroy your relationship.
Transparency is one of the most important qualities in a relationship and is need to build trust. Nothing should be hidden from your spouse. Your spouse should know you better than anyone else. You should not keep any part of yourself hidden from your spouse. Marriage is the most intimate relationship and that means being naked with nothing to hide literally and figuratively. Your spouse needs to know you better than anyone else because they are responsible to meet your most intimate needs. So reveal to your spouse as much information about yourself as you know – your thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, past history, daily activity and future plans.
Not only should your communication be open and honest but you actions must also be trustworthy. You must always be seeking to protect the feelings and interest of your spouse in order to be trusted. Many people struggle with trust because they have experienced pain and unhappiness from dealing with other that have betrayed their trust by their untrustworthy actions and/or communication. It is important that you deal with trust issues before moving on to another relationship.
Remember trust is not about being perfect. We all have failed in the areas of openness, honesty and trustworthy actions. But what is most important is your ability to open and honest about your failure and show your spouse by your actions your commitment to correct the behavior and show them that their feelings and interests are a priority.
The Wife Coach
