When we were kids we thought money was magic. It could solve anything. Just put that card in the “money machine” and out popped money. You could just go to that machine get money and buy whatever you want. Money was endless right? What a blessing. Back to the real world. Once you matured and grew up you knew acquiring money wasn’t that easy. You had to work for it. Wisdom also taught you that money doesn’t solve everything.
As we now know, money can be a blessing or a curse. It all depends on how you view it and the way you handle it. When you manage it well, it can be a blessing. But when you don’t or can’t, it certainly feel like a curse. You have to learn how to manage it and master it. When it comes to money and marriage the blessing and curse principle also applies.
Money is one of the leading causes of divorce. In your marriage vows you promised to “love, honor, and cherish” each other, “for better or for worse, for richer or poorer.” And believe me you will have some worse times in your marriage. Money issues can create huge walls that seem insurmountable. These are the times you need to come together as a team and not let money divide you. You have to face the giants. If your finances are a mess, you have to face up to the truth. Don’t ignore it. Acknowledge it is a mess and go to work on the issue together. Money issues need to be talked about. Many people try to avoid the subject money subject. Talk about money and finances even before you get married. Find out their attitude and beliefs toward money.
Doesn’t matter if you have a little money or a lot of money bit it is your attitude towards money that matters. Most people are either spenders or savers. Most couples complain that their spouse is never on the same page when it comes to money. She wants to tithe and he feels like they can’t afford it. He wants to take a risk and start a new business venture and she can’t see how they are going to have health insurance. She is always buying expensive clothes for the kids and he feels like they are kids and will grow out f those clothes quickly. But in your marriage you must work towards a balance. I believe financial tension in relationships can be improved if not alleviated if couples commit themselves to learning sound financial principles, learning to be disciplined and creating the balance. Set goals and be equally responsible in reaching those goals.
The Wife Coach
