Many women place too much emphasis on the wrong things when they evaluate a man they are interested in . They want to know what type of car does he drive? Does he make six figures? Is he good looking? Does he have a nice physique? Does he have “Edge” or “Swag”?
There are certain qualities you should be looking for in a husband. These 5 qualities should be at the top of your list:
A Man After God’s Own Heart
At the top of the list …..you should be looking to see if he is a man of God. Does he have a relationship with the Lord like David? Is he a faithful member of the body? Does he have a servant’s heart? Is he serving in the Lord’s church? Is he a student of the word? Does he surround himself with other godly men? Is he not only a learner of the word but also a doer of the word? He is not perfect but does he have a heart for God. Does he truly seek to be a better man and live to please God?
A King
To be a king you must have prepared a kingdom for your queen and the people you seek to serve. Is he bringing you into a home? Or is he moving into your home? Is he ready to provide and serve for those under his care. Does he have a vision for his life and does that vision include a mission for his queen? Does he understand your role as wife /queen? Has he prepared a savings for those emergency situation that he knows life will bring? Is he ready to take care of a family or does he run from responsibility?
Committed & Persistent
Life will throw you curve balls and life will be hard. Your man should be committed, determined and persistent. Life is a jungle and he must be the lion. The lion who is ready to fight the wiles of the devil. He must know who God created him to be. He must know how to have dominion and be committed to the fight for what is his. Does he give up easily or is he tenacious? Does he have a healthy work ethic? When God created Adam he gave him a job…..to work the garden. Your husband should know his purpose and be committed to fulfilling it.
Integrity
Does he lie for no reason? Is he a man of his word or does he make excuses? Or is he a man who believes in telling the truth even if it may hurt? Can he take responsibility for his actions when he is wrong? Does he feel the need to keep up with the Jones? Is he reliable? Does he know the meaning of honor? Is he strong enough to say he is sorry? Does he follow the crowd or stand in his own belief?
Communication Skills
Communication in marriage is key. It is one of the top 5 reasons why marriages fail. Proverbs 22:17 states, “Incline your ear and hear the words of the wise, and apply your mind to my knowledge.” It is important that he knows how to communicate with you as woman. To allow you to express your emotions and empathize with you even if it is not how he feels as a man. Can he be vulnerable and let you know how he feels? Does he offer you words of encouragement and build you up? When you don’t see eye to eye does he shut down and use his silence as a weapon or punishment? Like it or not, communication is the tool that God has given us to knit our hearts and our minds together. Success is possible if we’re willing to apply some intentional principles. We’ve all been called to God-honoring communication.
I encourage you to stay focused on the important things when evaluating if the man in your life is someone you want to call husband.
Sincerely,
The Wife Coach
