The Bible says if love is real you will be able to see it. You will be able to see it work, and work in the hard places like your marriage and family. You see love is an action word not an abstract idea or just a feeling. Love moves and it does things.

Are you experiencing God’s kind of love in your marriage?

Ask yourself these penetrating questions:

• When you’re on time but your spouse isn’t, are you patient?
• When your spouse needs attention, but you’re focused on a task, are you understanding?
• When your spouse succeeds are you their enthusiastic cheerleader?
• Do you mention how much you’ve done in the past when you’re trying to get the upper hand during a disagreement in the present?
• Do you ever use your spouse as the butt of your jokes or the target of your one-liners?
• Do you ever leave the impression with your mate that it’s your way or the highway?
• When you’re watching your favorite show or reading your favorite book, but your mate wants to talk, are you willing to stop and listen?
• Do you keep short accounts or detailed records of hurts from the past?
• When your mate happens to be wrong does your heart want to scream, “Gotcha! I knew I was right!”
• Are you willing to look for the best and overlook the worst?
• Are you willing to hang in there when the easier response would be to hang it up?

This week I want you to reflect on your actions and evaluate whether you are just giving lip service or truely demonstrating God’s love in your actions.

With all the love my heart can hold,

The Wife Coach