Forgiveness is an essential component of successful romantic relationships. In fact, the capacity to seek and grant forgiveness is one of the most significant factors contributing to marital satisfaction and a lifetime of love.

Often times we think forgiveness is warm and fuzzy. Honestly, it can be quite painful when it involves someone you love. But if we don’t forgive we are tormented by the pain, anger, bitterness and resentment. Unchecked feelings will become emotionally, mentally, verbally and physically detrimental to your being.  When we let go of wrongs we free ourselves from being taken over by these murderous feelings.

Forgiving others is about being willing to acknowledge that you are capable of being wounded. It also means that you are willing to step out from the role of victim and take charge of your life.

Forgiveness means renouncing the anger and resentment. It doesn’t mean excusing the offense but the penalty of the offense. It is like offering a pardon. Forgiveness is a choice.

Forgiveness is about choosing to live a life wherein others don’t have power over you and you’re not dominated by unresolved bitterness. It’s important to understand that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. While forgiveness may help others, it first and foremost can help you. Forgiving someone is one way of letting go so that you can heal, move forward and feel alive again.

Sincerely,

The Wife Coach