As single women, we get anxious when the years start to go by and we feel like we are always the bridesmaid and never the bride. We have conveniently made out your list: Go to college, get a good job, advance in our my career, get married, buy a house and have kids. For many of us, things don’t happen in that order and we are still waiting to get married. Our biological clock is ticking and still no man. We get frustrated. Dating, being in a serious relationship and then it not working out. Thinking that every next guy will be “the one”. We go from our 20s to our 30s, to our 40s and still no husband. Or for some of us, we have found the one only to find out he wasn’t the one and we are now a divorcee.

As the time keeps passing, it becomes tempting to rethink what we desire in a mate and lower our standards just to have a man. Yes, the struggle is real. The lonely nights, being tired of being the third wheel when everyone else is coupled up, going out to dinner and the movies alone, missing the connection of someone who knows you intimately. I know, I have experienced it all.

But I want to encourage you not to settle but to wait. Wait. Wait with expectation and hope, knowing that God will deliver the desires of your heart. Walk in faith because you know that same God who loves you so much to sacrifice His ONLY son for you, also wants only the best for you in a mate.

What do you do while you are waiting? Become the best you. Focus on healing from your past hurts. Work on any negative attitudes. Work on removing whatever baggage you are carrying. Learn to be content and happy alone. Learn to love yourself. Be thankful. Be active, so don’t have time to have a pity party. Start serving other while you are waiting. Volunteer. As a wife you will need to know how to minister to your husband, so starting practicing ministry now. Your life will be so enriched.

Become a wife even before you are married. The word says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” Not he who finds a girlfriend. When he finds you, you will be already walking and acting as a wife. Find out what it truly means to be a wife and become it. Become the Queen for your King is looking for.

The Wife Coach