I watched a powerful video this week by Lisa Nichols on Goalcast. One of the things she shared was that “you determine how other’s will love you”. It stuck with me. No matter whether you are single or married, as women we set the standard for how we are going to be loved by others. You choose how you get to be treated.
Are you in a relationship with a man who is not fully committed? Do you allow your husband to speak to you any ole way …..to be verbally abusive? Does he make you a priority? Do you allow him to pick you up 2 hours late for your date? Are you going to settle for being his side chick? Don’t give in and say yes when you want to say no. Now that you are married, does he still open the car door for you? Now that he is your husband have the date nights stopped?
Most of the time it is not the big decisions but the little decisions and exceptions we make that take us away from the love we deserve. It is the small decisions and exceptions we make to lower our bar little by little. Then one day we look up and say to ourselves “How did I end up in this relationship?” We are unhappy and miserable.
You are the first example of what loving you looks like. You must fall madly in love with yourself first. You must speak words of love and encouragement to yourself. I can’t say it enough….stop the negative self-talk. You must pamper yourself before a man even walks into your life. Date yourself, get to know you first. Going out to dinner and the movies by yourself and enjoy your time alone. Learn to be happy by yourself. Do you buy yourself flowers?
Love yourself by giving yourself the proper self-care. Don’t overwork yourself and spread yourself to thin. Don’t put everyone else in front of you. Get the proper rest. Exercise and eat healthy. Have a beauty regimen. Love yourself by investing in your self-care. Fall madly in love with you boo!
My dear, you deserve healthy love! You deserve to be honored and cherished. You deserve to be a priority in his life. You deserve to be treated like the queen you are!
Be careful not to lower the bar ……set your standards and hold to them. You determine how others will love you!
If you need help preparing for the greatest role you will ever have….being a wife OR if you are already a wife and you want to go to the next level and be an AMAZING wife, visit my website and sign-up for a free consultation today @ www.thewifeuniversity.com
The Wife Coach
